We make up stress for ourselves. We do it with our thoughts. It naturally follows that our thoughts can eliminate stress.
There is no stress in the universe. There is a flow, a give and take, harmony, natural laws of attraction. All of these can be put to use to manage our personal flow, particularly when that flow seems to be clogged with worry and fear.
Where do deadlines come from? We make them up, so we can just as easily unmake them. The major times I experience stress is when I’ve decided something should happen by or at such and such a time and that isn’t the universe’s plan at all. It always ends up that I’m the one that has to change. We impose deadline on ourselves all the time. We make appointments too close together, we agree to do things we should have declined to do. “No” is a great stress relieved.
In business, it is a good plan to under promise and over deliver. That way everyone is pleasantly surprised.
Stress over the behavior of others
We worry about our children, our parents, our friends. We want them to make the “right” choices. But whose “right” are we talking about? A major cause of stress over others is that we want control; we want it to be done our way. And “our way” happens to be the way we would be comfortable doing it.
Each person must walk his or her own path. Each person must make his or her own choice. The lessons learned through our personal experiences guide us in making relevant choices in the future. No one can take our journey for us. It is our path, our choice, our journey, and our personal destination.
When we embrace a belief that there is only one universal energy and each of us is an expression of that infinite energy, we know that no one is alone. Each of us is a part of a wholeness so great it is unimaginable. We are guarded and guided every step of the way.
What to do to release stress
Detach yourself. Put your situation in perspective. Are you really going to allow yourself to get sick because of certain papers on your desk that need something done to them? Do you choose to ignore your own need for rest or nourishment because you very much want to have a say in what someone else is doing. When someone you love is sick or making what you perceive as dangerous choices, move yourself into trust and faith. Release your loved one to their highest good and know the outcome will be perfect.
Non-attachment does not mean not caring. It means releasing a situation to its natural fulfillment. If I put out an idea at a meeting I can be very attached to its acceptance as the way things should be or I can put it out and let it take the form the group needs for it to take. It may be embraced, it may be tabled, or it may be dropped. I offer the idea because it was an intuitive nudge from my inner wisdom. Period. I have offered my idea and I release it.
Non-attachment does not mean you don’t help. However, first you need to ask if the other person wants your help or advice. Sometimes in our good intentions to assist by telling people what to do or offering to do things for them, we actually are sending the message “You can’t do that, you’re not good enough to do that.” That’s a very disempowering message to send.
How do you change your vibration when you are under stress?
Without going too deeply into the Law of Attraction, we can basically say that like attracts like. When we are vibrating to feelings of worry and angst, we will definitely attract more worry and angst. To move from stress to peace we must change our vibration. There are specific things we can do:
- Consciously let go of any concern about the result or outcome
- Align yourself with the idea that we are all in integral part of a universal whole
- Trust that things are as they should be and there is a law of natural balance in action
- Practice non-attachment
- Stay in the “now,”
- Don’t worry about “what if.”
- Under promise and over deliver
- Say “no.” Choose only activities that nourish and satisfy you.
- Let go of the need to control – a situation, another’s actions or an outcome.
- Ask someone to help you keep trusting in a positive outcome for all involved. (Friend, spiritual counselor).
- Allow circumstances to unfold at their own pace. You cannot force a flower to bloom.
- Exchange fear for trust. Fear contributes to your negative thought.
- Trust your fundamental beliefs to hold you. Remember that you are a contributing member in a Universe of Love. You are innately whole and serene.
- Move from your head to your heart by consciously breathing in wholeness to fill your body.
- Know that everyone is made of the same infinite energy
- Understand that even when souls choose to leave the planet “early” they have chosen their gift of departure in advance. Look for the gift they have given in the lessons their departure gives to those they leave.
- You are only responsible for your own thoughts and actions. (That should keep you busy enough!)
- Lower and eliminate stress by changing your thoughts and awareness.
- Look at the situation from another viewpoint.
- If you like the results and experiences you are having, keep doing what you have been doing.
If you find areas you desire to change, simply change your vibration by changing your thought.
Direct your own steps
Each day I choose a quality I want to noticeably experience at the beginning of each day: unfolding, mindfulness, natural flow, clarity, peace, serenity, discovery, insights, completion, awareness. When I journal the following day I note what has manifested.
You make your own stress. You can unmake your own stress. Watch your mind and monitor it. Thank it for its worrisome, negative, you-can’t-do-it thoughts and in their place put your alignment with the natural flow of the universe, trusting and knowing that when you listen to your inner wisdom each choice will lead you in the perfect direction.
Practice non-attachment. Allow things to happen at their own pace. Watch the natural unfolding of miracle after miracle around you.